We recently got back from a weekend in BlueMountain, we had a great time as always, more about that later.
The purpose of this post is to share this picture, it is of a board I saw outside a restaurant:
This was quite offensive to me. To confirm that I wasn’t crazy, I shared it with one of my breast cancer groups, and it was to many of those women too.
Of course it’s great that they are fundraising for run for the cure (which by the way I too will be doing and will share more information about later).
But messages the talk about saving breasts, especially for the purpose of satisfying men to get to “second base”, is just not cool. We need a cure for cancer to save lives, not breasts. When we do talk about breast saving procedures (which I had) , it is to spare bc patients a more physically and emotionally intrusive surgery, not to maintain the ability to reach second base.
I know that they probably meant it to be cute and funny, but as a breast cancer survivor, I did not find it cute and funny.
After thinking about it a lot, I went over and talk to them. I thanked them for the fundraising and suggested that they consider changing the sign, because breast cancer is not really about whether or not somebody can feel me up, it’s about whether I live or not, and whether or not somebody else can get to second base with me is the least of my concerns. I acknowledged that it was just meant to be cute and funny, but that they never know who is looking at it, there there could be other breast cancer survivors around and probably are, and it’s very hurtful for us to see what we’ve gone through reduced to a sexual activity. They apologized profusely and said they would speak to the manager.
I hope they change the sign.